As Mother’s Day approaches, I find myself sitting at my kitchen table, thumbing through my Photos app—and seeing the random pictures of my family taking a walk and cooking at our last family event. This reminiscence reminds me to create memories and experiences for my children. Because after all is said and done, that’s the only thing that matters. These precious moments form the foundation of traditions that connect us across time and create the bond that is passed down through generations.

Today, I’d like to share some thoughts on creating meaningful Mother’s Day traditions that go beyond the commercial cards and flowers (though those certainly have their place!) to celebrate legacy in ways that resonate deeply and create lasting memories.

1. Honouring Heritage Through Thoughtful Rituals

When we think about the women who raised us, we often remember both the big moments and small gestures—a certain way of cooking their stew or jollof rice mix, the unique lilt in their laughter, or how they always knew exactly what to say when our hearts were broken. The true essence of a mother’s impact lies in these everyday moments and the relationships she nurtures.

A meaningful Mother’s Day tradition begins with heartfelt intention. I remember the times when my mum had a cold or was down, and I realised how precious our time together truly was. This prompted me to ask myself: “What qualities in my mother do I treasure most? What wisdom has she shared that I never want to forget?”

For some, this might mean recreating a beloved family recipe that has been passed down through generations. I still remember standing beside my grandmother as she taught me the precise way to prepare Abacha (an African vegetable salad) – each careful ingredient prep representing care and attention to detail that expressed her love language.

2. Creating Space for Feminine Gathering

One of the most powerful traditions you can establish is creating a sacred space for women in your family to gather. This doesn’t need to be elaborate—a simple afternoon gist session, a cozy brunch in your dining room adorned with the pretty china, or even a virtual gathering for those separated by distance.

What matters is the quality of presence you bring to these gatherings. Put away the phones, slow down the pace, and create an environment where stories can be shared, wisdom exchanged, and bonds strengthened.

3. Capturing Feminine Wisdom

Our mothers and grandmothers carry wisdom that is often lost in our fast-paced world. Creating traditions that capture this wisdom is a precious gift not only to them but to future generations.

You can consider starting a “Wisdom Journal” as a Mother’s Day tradition. Each year, sit with your mother or grandmother and ask her one meaningful question about life, love, or womanhood. Record her answers in a beautiful book that will become a family treasure over time.

Questions might include:

• “What made you feel most beautiful in your life?”
• “What feminine quality are you most proud to have passed down?”
• “What advice would you give your younger self about embracing your feminine nature?”

This could be in a video format, too. I remember watching a similar video on Instagram of a woman who had seven questions to ask her mother and filmed it like an interview session.

4. Beauty Rituals as Celebration

As an elegance coach, I believe in the power of beauty practices to connect us with our feminine essence. Consider creating a Mother’s Day tradition that celebrates the beauty and wisdom passed through your family line.

I’m still partial to the Elizabeth Arden scent line because I grew up seeing my mom spray that every single time she went out.

Beauty practices don’t have to be arduous. This could be as simple as a mother-daughter spa day at home, using recipes for face masks or hair treatments. It’s really just prioritising that time together and creating memories and experiences. 

5. Letters of Feminine Legacy

One tradition that has brought immense meaning to my family is our “Letters”.  And I’ve found myself keeping the little mementoes my children give me. Lol. I need a separate drawer for all my love notes from my angels. These notes from my children are also like a major prompt to send a note to my mum, albeit digital. 

Just like the thank you notes (link to the post), I suggest writing specific reflections and appreciation notes to your mom on how she has shown up in your life, how she has showcased grace and wisdom or on how your relationship is getting better day by day.

Creating Your Own Traditions

As you consider what traditions might be meaningful for your family, remember that true elegance comes from authenticity rather than perfection. The most beautiful traditions are those that genuinely reflect your family’s dynamics.

Some questions to consider as you design your own traditions:

• What feminine qualities were most celebrated in your family history?
• What activities brought the women in your family together?
• What aspects of motherhood and womanhood do you most want to honour?
• How can you create space for both celebration and meaningful connection?

When establishing your Mother’s Day traditions, remember to incorporate elements that honour not just biological mothers, but all the women who have shaped your understanding of femininity and elegance. This inclusive approach acknowledges that feminine legacy flows through many channels.

I still remember my aunt teaching me how to enter a room with confidence, shoulders back and head held high. Though not my mother by birth, she contributed immeasurably to my understanding of feminine poise. On Mother’s Day, I honour her alongside my mother.

In a world where it’s easy for moments to pass by, creating intentional Mother’s Day traditions becomes an act of preservation and celebration. The traditions you create do more than honour our mothers—they help us reconnect with those aspects of motherhood that transcend generations.

As you prepare for Mother’s Day this year, I encourage you to look beyond the commercial expressions to create something truly meaningful—something that celebrates not just your mother as an individual but the beautiful lineage of feminine wisdom she represents.

Wishing you a Mother’s Day filled with grace, connection, and the quiet power of feminine legacy.

What Mother’s Day traditions have you created in your family? I’d love to hear about your celebrations in the comments below.